So, you and your partner have decided to exchange personal vows during your marriage ceremony... but where to begin?
I provide all of my couples with an interactive Vow Writing Guide, to help make it a fun and inspiring process.
For a marriage ceremony to be legal, the couple only needs to state what we call the "Legal Vows", which are:
“I call upon the people here present to witness that I, FULL NAME, take you, FULL NAME, to be my lawful wedded wife/husband/partner.”
Anything other than this one sentence is included at the desire of the couple.
Some couples choose not to include more, some exchange a pre-written love letter to keep things private, and some wish to incorporate personal vows.
Personal vows are the perfect opportunity to share your story, provide a little insight into your relationship and share your love and intentions for your marriage together.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed at the thought of writing your personal vows, take a moment to remind yourself that there is absolutely no pressure on you. No pressure to be anything other than who you are or say anything other than words you feel comfortable saying.
If you don't have an inner Shakespeare – that's okay. Your partner is marrying you for YOU. They love the way you think, feel, talk, and act. They love the way you make them feel, with your eyes, your smile, your touch, and your words.
So, Step 1. Take the pressure off! Be yourself, write from within and remove any overwhelming sense of expectation.
The next thing to remember is that there are no rules! The beauty of having a civil marriage ceremony is that you can say whatever you feel! You don’t need to follow a specific structure or include any specific words. These are your personal vows and they can be whatever you wish.
That being said, Step 2. Chat first with your partner before you start writing.
It always helps to begin with some shared decisions, so you’re not worried about things like; how much they writing? What if their vows are way better than mine? Is theirs funny or serious? Discuss some guidelines first.
Once you’ve removed the pressure and you’re both on the same page, you should be feeling more comfortable and confident to sit down with a pen and paper and begin the magic.
This is where my vow writing guide comes in! It's broken into 4 sections:
Igniting Inspiration
Crafting Key Sentences
Composing your First Draft
Implementing Feedback
Secure your date with me to gain access to my Lovers Login online portal where you will find my Vow Writing Guide, Interactive Ceremony Planner and Love Questionnaire!
With love,
Naomi Lea x
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